Talk to Your Kids About Everything!
- Louisa Mastromarino
- Apr 4
- 3 min read
Open communication with children is vital for healthy development and fosters trust. When discussing diverse topics, parents can help children navigate their thoughts, emotions, and the world around them.
Start by creating a safe space for conversation. As Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Daniel J. Siegel explain in *The Whole-Brain Child* (2011), emotional attunement and responsive discussions promote cognitive growth. Given that children often have questions about complex subjects ranging from school to personal issues, addressing these openly encourages critical thinking.
Books like *How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk* by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (2012) offer effective strategies for initiating dialogue. They emphasize the importance of active listening, validating feelings, and encouraging independence in thinking.
Communicating effectively with your teen or child requires a blend of empathy, patience, and clarity. Here are some additional suggestions to foster open dialogue:
1. **Listen Actively**: Show genuine interest in what they have to say. Use body language that conveys attention, such as maintaining eye contact and nodding in understanding.
2. **Be Respectful and Calm**: Approach conversations with a calm demeanor, especially during disputes. Respect their feelings, even if you disagree, to foster mutual respect.
3. **Choose the Right Moment**: Timing is crucial. Avoid discussing serious topics during stressful moments or when they are preoccupied. Choose a time when they seem receptive and relaxed.
4. **Ask Open-Ended Questions**: Encourage dialogue by asking questions that require more than a "yes" or "no" answer. For example, "What do you think about…?" or "How did that make you feel?"
5. **Share Your Experiences**: Relate relevant experiences from your own life to create connection and understanding. This can help your child see you as a resource rather than an authority figure alone.
6. **Be Honest and Transparent**: Be straightforward about your expectations and feelings. Honesty nurtures trust and demonstrates that it’s okay to be open.
7. **Avoid Lecturing**: Instead of launching into a lecture, engage in a two-way conversation. This approach encourages them to express their thoughts and opinions.
8. **Reassure Them of Your Support**: Remind them that you are there to support them, no matter the situation. This assurance can reduce anxiety and promote openness.
9. **Follow Up**: Keep the conversation going. Check in periodically about topics discussed, showing that you care beyond the initial conversation.
By employing these strategies, you can build a stronger, more communicative relationship with your child or teen.
Don’t shy away from tough subjects. Discussing events, like societal issues or personal safety, can be a foundation for your child's understanding. *Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child* by John Gottman (1997) suggests that discussing emotions can help children learn to manage their feelings, making them more resilient.
Finally, remember that conversation is a two-way street. Engaging in discussions about your own experiences lets your child see you vulnerability, fostering a deeper connection and understanding.
In conclusion, prioritizing open dialogue not only aids in your child's development but also nurtures a lasting bond. By utilizing practical resources and incorporating candid discussions, parents can raise thoughtful, well-rounded individuals.
References
Bryson, T. P., & Siegel, D. J. (2011). *The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind*. Bantam.
Faber, A., & Mazlish, E. (2012). *How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk*. HarperCollins.
Gottman, J. (1997). *Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting*. Simon & Schuster.
Louisa Mastromarino is a certified counselor educator and Licensed Spiritual Health Coach. She holds a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Communications, a Master of Science Degree in School Counseling, and a post master’s degree in Supervision and Educational Leadership. Louisa is the author of Spifford Max and the Cycle Pups Go to Washington, D.C., and additional publications. Louisa's work has been highlighted in the noted publications Careers from the Kitchen Table by Raven Blair Davis and Miracles in the Divine by Beverly Pokorski. For appointments in spiritual coaching email distantholistic@gmail.com. Thank you.
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